Working With Jerks
Jerks can take up a lot of our time and consume mental energy, but you can gain more freedom and personal control by recognizing a jerk's game. Learn how jerks are trying to control you and learn how to use Jerk Repellent.
If we are honest with ourselves, we will admit that we have intentionally tried to mess with someone’s head, even if only once. And, we will agree that someone has tried to mess with our head — probably more than once
Jerks are trying to control you and trying to burden you with a problem they created. Or, they are miserable, negative people eagerly spreading their own negative inertia. Beware of using the phrase “You make me . . ." followed by anything when dealing with a jerk. Doing this signals the jerk that you have relinquished control and the jerk will move in for the kill.
Learn how to recognize a jerk's game, insulate yourself against jerks, short circuit jerk behavior, and repel hard-cord jerks. You can also insulate yourself against jerks and short circuit jerk behavior by using specific techniques.
If you state aloud (in the form of a question) which behavior the jerk is using, you will refocus the interaction and you will be less annoyed.
You may also want to use proven Jerk Repellent phrases to render jerks helpless.
If you memorize your own sanity affirmation and say it aloud at least one time per day and silently numerous times per day, you will be more centered and harder for jerks to frazzle.
To increase your natural resistance to jerk behavior, make sure you have a personal sacred place where you can spend time daily focused on pleasantness and peace as a result you will be calmer and less prone to jerk attacks.
You can do all this while maintaining your own sanity and minimizing the impact of negative people.
Once upon a time, Jerry was one of the world’s biggest jerks. He has caused much pain for others (especially for his parents), but also pain for himself in the form of lost opportunities, ruined relations, and loneliness. He is much different now.
Collectively we can dissipate this energy and break this cycle by loving ourselves, sending positive messages to others, and remaining calm. We need not fight it, we only need to understand it and deflect it.
Read the following message aloud and repeat it often; it will help you maintain your sanity.
"I am a special and wonderful person. I am unique in all the universe and therefore deserve to be treated with dignity and respect."
Learn how to deflect toxic people who want you to suffer and stop them from messing with your head by using simple, proven techniques. Learn how to prevent the energy-draining impact of negative people.
How to Stop Jerks From Messing with Your Head
Learn how to deflect toxic people who want you to suffer and stop them from messing with your head by using simple, proven techniques. Learn how to prevent the energy-draining impact of negative people.
If we are honest with ourselves, we will admit that we have intentionally tried to mess with someone’s head, even if only once. And, we will agree that someone has tried to mess with our head — probably more than once.
Once upon a time, Jerry was one of the world’s biggest jerks. He has caused much pain for others (especially for his parents), but also pain for himself in the form of lost opportunities, ruined relations, and loneliness. He is much different now.
Collectively we can dissipate this energy and break this cycle by loving ourselves, sending positive messages to others, and remaining calm. We need not fight it, we only need to understand it and deflect it.
Read the following message aloud and repeat it often; it will help you maintain your sanity.
I am a special and wonderful person. I am unique in all the universe and therefore deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
Your ability to respond to Jerks varies. Below are proven Jerk Repellent sound bites. A key point to remember whenever you are face-to-face with a jerk is to respond to the words, not to the innuendo. In other words, ignore an abrasive tone of voice or negative body language by responding only to the content of the message. You will notice that often times the words used are relatively benign, it's the delivery of the message that can sting.
If we ignore this and respond politely to the words, chances are the jerk will no longer see us as a target and stop annoying us.
1. Does this behavior work for you with other people?
This is a great phrase to use when someone is trying to control you by using forceful or rude behavior designed to convince you to do something that is probably not a good idea.
This simple question changes the focus and energy of the discussion; you will be amazed at some of the responses you receive.
Be prepared to explain (calmly) why it won't work with you.
2. Bummer.
Works almost anywhere. My personal favorite.
You'll especially love this one if you have children and they are admonishing you and your parenting skills because you won't let them do something that is not in their best interest.
All you need to do is continue saying "Bummer" as they scold you. They get the message quickly.
"Bummer" is also helpful at work if you are stuck with a colleague who likes to complain. Because you do not reinforce their grumbling, they will seek out others who might. They leave you alone.
3. I think you are talking to the wrong person.
This is a great response when you are being asked (or told) to change a decision that was made by someone else. Such as: make an exception to strict company policy, change a school rule, change a law, or other times when your role is to enforce the rule but you have no authority to change it.
This phrase also works well when you are tired of hearing someone complain about something over which you have absolutely no control.
4. My pronoun-early-warning –system just activated.
5. Think that is called monkey sitting.
6. Nod with a blank look and say nothing.
7. Use ignoring behavior.
8. Wow! You’re really having a bad day, aren’t you?
9. Ask a totally unrelated question.
10. You’re probably right.
11. How do you spell that?
12. Does your Mother know you talk like that?
14. Excuse me. Leave. Stay gone.
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